Been a long time

Hello. Been a long time i didn't update my blog.

In this interval of time, so many things happened. A period of growth, and evolution. I just couldn't care less about the tiny irritants that are happening around me because I have bigger things to worry about.

So, I am happy that I have grown out of the phase of adolescence and became a full fledged adult, grown up with the experience, not determined by my family, but by me and my hard work alone.

I learned a lot.

1. How to let go
2. How to accept people
3. How to defend yourself
4. How to be happy
5. When I should and shouldn't care
6. How to vocalize my thoughts
7. How to love your friends
8. How to de-claw your enemies and make them your friends

But knowing all that, doesn't make me perfect or  more superior than others. Some are born lucky to be exposed to these life changing experiences and some are just not. Life has it's way of rewarding people. We just have to be patient.
 

Ironic Malaysia

I find it ironic:


Malaysia wants to be a developed country in 2020. But having only wealth is not enough. If the people are morally incompetent to manage the country's wealth, then I think you know where Malaysia will be heading. And to think that this disease lies dormant in the future leaders of Malaysia.


We should not only blame the leaders. The citizens are also to blame. With a lousy work mentality and an unacceptable level of unhealthy competition, it will be hard.


Malaysia still has a long long long long way to go. As long as the mentalities of it's people doesn't change, we could just forget about going in par with the rich nations that build their wealth on human assets, research  and manufacturing.


With the thinking of the citizens, still shrouded by pointless entertainment and dumb racial politics, the road to infinite progress will be very hard.




 

Words of advice (INFJ)

I learn form experience.

Sometmes I sit, and just watch what is happening around me. I see good things, i see bad things.

What I see very clearly is that hardworking people will not fail. They will not regret because their hard work will eventually pay off.

But there are some, who wants things without working hard for what they want. And it pisses me off. Or even if they work hard, it will only be temporary.

I love my companions who are hard working, who endure, who never give up, who aim for perfection. I have trouble with those who do the opposite. As someone who sees this, I could only offer my advice. And sometimes a little nudge.

At the end of the day their success depends on them despite of the push i give.

Often I am called the killer of joy, of being a party pooper, but often I am correct. My actions and my achievments prove my point.

I am an ordinary human. What puts me where I am now is my hard work and my mentality. I am not perfect but everyday I choose to better myself, and become better than I was yesterday.

People tend to put others on pedestals, but what is the point? Why don't we follow who we respect.

Things I've learned

1. When we tell others not to do something, make sure we ourselves are not doing the thing that we are prohibiting.
2. Do not even think about changing people to be like yourselves. Respect their differences. Only react when their differences affect your safety, work or sanity.
3. Children should be nurtured to think independently, freely and openly. Parenting means guiding the child to bringing out their full potential; not guiding the child to become mirror images of their parents. 
4. Keep your ideals and beliefs true. Never sell them away for material or worldly benefits.
5. Be direct and firm in communication. Being diplomatic has its limits.
6. Keeping hierarchies has its limit. Old people should discuss new ideas with young ones instead of just shutting down new input.
7. If people do you wrong, be firm, set your boundaries, and forgive them. If things still don't work out, they don't deserve you. Just bail out.  

About me: An INFJ

I recently found out I was an INFJ. (Google for MBTI-Myers Briggs Type Indicator). Really described me 98%. Amazing!

INFJ - ----Profile by Sandra Krebs Hirsch and Jean Kummerow---- 

INFJs are future oriented, and direct their insight and inspiration toward the understanding of themselves and thereby human nature. Their work mirrors their integrity, and it needs to reflect their inner ideals. Solitude and an opportunity to concentrate thoroughly on what counts most is important to them. INFJs prefer to quietly exert their influence. They have deeply felt compassion, and they desire harmony with others. INFJs understand the complexities existing within people and among them. They are at their best concentrating on their ideas, ideals, and inspirations. 

--Living-- 

INFJ children have two sides. They can be very much involved in the world of people, as well as quiet, imaginative, and in their own world. They are usually gentle and abhor violence. As teenager, INFJs look for a small group of people who understand and appreciate them. Without this support, they can feel isolated from others. INFJs who do not find a supportive social group may find the teen years to be somewhat difficult for them because of peer pressure to be popular and activity oriented. They are not likely to enjoy large parties, but prefer intimate groups of close and long-standing friends. Many INFJs who have the opportunity to gravitate toward higher education where they often find their niche. With their intellectual bent, they are led to endeavors that allow them to deal with theory and complexity. Professors often spot their intellectual inclination and encourage it. INFJs often settle early into a career choice and diligently apply themselves to the career's requirements. This same diligent pattern applies when selecting other important things in their lives, such as where to live, who to marry, and what activities are worthy of their dedication. INFJs have an internal picture of how they would like their work to contribute to the general good. If they are in an appropriate career area, INFJs may reap the rewards of their insight and hard work. Because of their future-focus, their people orientation, and their push toward task completion, they may rise to positions of responsibility.

 --Learning--

 INFJs have a strong love of learning, and they tend to do well academically. Through persistence, diligence, and conscientiousness, they complete their assignments on time. They are likely to enjoy research and will go great lengths to find answers. INFJs enjoy investigating the possibilities and meanings beyond the actual facts and realities. Reading holds a particular fascination for them because it allows them to have quiet reflection time and engages their imagination. They also like the written word (and rely on it more than the spoken word) since it is usually better structured and more coherent with a ready-made framework. INFJs write and communicate well because they want to formulate their ideas clearly. They place high regard on their reader and audience. They seek to communicate their ideals to others. When their ideals need to be championed, they speak up in an enthusiastic and impassioned way. As students, INFJs prefer learning from teachers whom they both like and admire, and who give them personal attention. INFJs are often 'model' students. They are quiet and orderly, reflective and thoughtful, and sincerely want to please their teachers and learn the right thing. They learn best from others but want time to assimilate material by themselves. INFJs will go beyond what has been presented and often mull material over in their minds. Occasionally they will discuss ruminations with others in order to learn even more. They particularly like the more conceptual and theoretical classes, therefore, higher education is comfortable to them. 

--Working--

 INFJs tend to be devoted to what they believe in and seek work where their needs, values, and ideals can be deeply engaged. They move on the wave of their inspirations and are determined to see that their values are worked out in their lives. They will work toward their goals individually and, when needed, will put together a team of other highly dedicated people like themselves. They are personal be with others, working with integrity and consistency, and they follow through on their commitments. INFJs, while concentrating on what is important to them, may ignore the political ramifications of their actions. They can be surprised by the necessity of being political and usually resent that aspect of organizational life. Being able to talk honestly and comfortably to people at work is much more important to them than 'playing games.' INFJs orient themselves toward their goals using a personal, values-based framework. They do not 'advertise' their values and priorities because they believe in harmony and positive relationships. However, one would do well not to underestimate the amount of perseverance, energy, and time INFJs give to their priorities. What they do, they do with an almost religious intensity. The INFJ external environment may be only partially organized. Their internal environment, by contrast, is anything but haphazard. Their ideas need to fit into a coherent whole that has the pieces in place. Organization of the internal world takes precedence over organization of an external world. INFJs prefer occupations that focus on the big picture, involve conceptual awareness, and lead to a better understanding of the spiritual, emotional, or future needs of people. They want their work to have impact and meaning and for it to bring them admiration and respect. While INFJs can and do enter all occupations, some are more appealing to them than others. These include Clergy, Education Consultant, English Teacher, Fine Arts Teacher, Librarian, Psychiatrist, Psychologist, Scientist, Social Worker, and other occupations that allow INFJs an opportunity to make their own creative contribution. 

--Leading--

 INFJs lead through their quiet yet persistent and determined effort toward long-range goals for themselves, others and their organizations. In working toward their vision, they win cooperation rather than demand it. INFJs work to make their insights real and are able to inspire others with their ideals. They use a low-key, soft, yet intense and determined course of action. When they do not directly lead others, they may still act as facilitators between people. In meetings, they focus on both people and new ideas. 

--Leisure--

 Leisure-time pursuits for INFJs are often solitary or involve the company of others who are particularly important to them. Sitting around with dear friends discussing feelings can be very special to INFJs. INFJs are likely to have friends of long standing rather than make many new acquaintances. They may meet with their friends fairly consistently to share what is happening in their lives. It is sometimes difficult for others to break into this circle. These deep friendships are important, even though INFJs may not share much directly about themselves. 

--Loving--

 For INFJs, 'still waters run deep.' They tend to become attracted to someone special and prefer this one deep relationship over many superficial ones. The depth of involvement and feeling that the INFJ has toward loved ones is only partially communicated outward. At times, when alone, INFJs become truly in touch with the depth of the love they have for their partner. They may not openly demonstrate or even verbalize their intense feelings. INFJs often have an ideal standard of what love is. They hold to their ideal and are disappointed when, inevitably, their relationship and/or mate reveal flaws. INFJs enjoy sharing activities like a regular 'date,' revisiting the place where they first met their mates, or doing other symbolic things that help to continue and confirm the existence of the bond that they feel for their partner. INFJs want to give love and to be loved. They enter into relationships just to be cared for, even when the person is not right for them and they suspect it. However, when they meet that special person, they are quick to get into the relationship and make it a serious one. They will end their other relationships in order to pursue their loved one. They become very focused, intense, and direct in that pursuit. INFJs, when scorned, take it personally and retreat inward. They may obsess about the relationship and their role in its failure. One INFJ explained, 'people can do the most outrageous things, yet I blame myself for triggering their behavior or not recognizing it. I see myself as responsible for relationships. Other people can dismiss them --- I'm not able to.' INFJs may blame themselves and experience a period of mourning. If they do not marshal their resources, externalized their feelings, and take risks to move on, they may experience a long period of self-examination. 

Guides

"I can only show you the door, but you have to go to it yourself"

Promoting ideas to change the world is not an easy task. There will always be hurdles, not only from others but also from within.

We live in a polarised society. A society where we are free to choose what we want, and what is best for us. But freedom is only valid, as long as we do not limit the freedom of others.

Due to this logic, the concept of freedom itself is quite difficult to comprehend. Are we free to take advantage of others? Are we free to steal from the rich? Are we free to bring harm unto others?

I see that putting a limit on freedom is the only way a society can thrive. If we give children to much freedom, they will never want to go to school, and would rather just play until time is too late for them to become a great contributor to society itself. If we give freedom for people to upload videos or write articles on the media, people will tend to spread lies for their own advantage for this is the nature of humans.

Humans, when they are in desperation will do anything to survive. Even the chivalrous and the most righteous of them. The evil ones use religion, ideologies, social concepts and influence to make sure that their needs are met. Some will sell their faith and belief just for an easy life. This is but the reality of the world we are living in.

 Humans tend to misuse freedom. They spread lies, promote hatred, bring down people just for the sake of ego and the will to win. In Facebook, I find it quite depressing seeing people spreading bullshit. They point out the problems, but rarely say anything to solve them. Yet if they say things to solve only a few actually take the initiative to execute what they do.

Due to this, I myself am quite depressed at the state of the being of us humans. We are at an all time low. Its too late for the generation above me and my generation to change. But I believe that the genaration below me can change and I will try my best to guide them. I also believe in all my heart, that to change the world, one has to first master his or herself, before he or she can rid the world of the imperfection it has.