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Malaysians are getting married at older age. Why?

Say you are a fresh graduate at that age of 23, a male, starting a carrier

with a salary, say RM2000 per month.

Monthly, extracting your expenditures on foods, transportation (public

or motorcycle), electricity, water, phone, house rent and other

expenses, say you can save about RM800 the most.

Then, because you are a good son, you send some money to your parents or relatives about

RM300 per month. This will give you a balance of RM500 of saving. For the first year, maybe you are very discipline with

your budget, so you save about RM5000.

The next year at the age of 24, you meet a girl of your dream. Both of you

plan to get married after one year or two. Ok, that's fine, it gives you

time to save some more money and some more time to prepare the basic

necessities for a 'happy' family? a car and a roof to live under. That year

because you are a hard worker, you get a raise of 10%.

Since you are also a gentleman, you make sure some money is put aside to spend on dates and

gifts for your girl, so 10% goes for her. Like the previous year, after

much sweat and Meggie-eating months, you save another RM5000. You are paid 2 months bonus. So, another RM4000 is

added to your saving. So, your total saving now is RM14,000.

You decide to spend about RM8000 on a brand-new RM40,000 car down payment. So, youR

net saving that year is RM6000.

The next year at the age of 25, you are doing fine at work. But because

now you have to pay for car every month, your total monthly saving is

cut down to about RM400. You save roughly about RM5000 that year. No

bonus that year because your company is doing poor.

So, your total

saving in the bank is RM11,000.

Then, you decide to get engaged with

your girlfriend. She said OK. So, need to buy an engagement ring.

RM1500 is spent on ring plus 'hantaran pertunangan'.

So, your net

saving that year is RM9,500.

The next year at the age of 26, you get promoted. Your

salary now is 1.5 of your starting salary at the company. Good news! You think. "Ok, this year

I will get married". You also are 'gersang' already. :)

So, you ask your fiancée "how much is the dowry (hantaran)? "

She say, "berapa-berapa yang u sanggup".

You ask,"RM5000 ok?".

She replies, "I okay je. Tapi my mom tu. Dia kata grad oversea macam I

ni mane boleh letak rendah-rendah. Paling kurang RM10,000 tau!".

Your eyes 'terjegil', air liur 'meleleh' and you faint on the spot.

"Where else in the world can I get extra money?", you say to yourself.

But, because you are very determined to get married with your dream

girl and in the name of love, you work really really hard that year

until you are awarded "The Best Employee of The Year". You get 3 months

of bonus. You also do some side business to supply ayam pencen. So,

roughly your net saving at the end of that year is RM20,000.

Ok, now you are 27 years old with enough saving in the bank to pay for

the dowry. But then, come your mom saying,"Anak mak nak kawin ni mesti

la buat grand grand. Kita sewa khemah besar-besar, jemput penyanyi ke

artis ke sorang dua datang buat persembahan. Lauk pauk kita cater aje

la ya? RM10 je sekepala. Baju kawin ko, kita sewa yg cantik-cantik

dan mahal-mahal sket. Kita jemput dalam 1000 orang datang ok?"

You did a quick in-the-head-calculation,

"1000xRM10=RM10,000, penyanyi lagi, khemah lagi, buta-buta je RM15,000!!! Tu tak masuk cincin kahwin lagi!!"

You say,"Mak, nak buat apa membazir-bazir duit ni?"

Your mom replies,"Apa pulak membazirnya? Kau kawin sekali je seumur hidup.

`Biarlah buat betul-betul." You insist,"Tapi mak?"

Your mom says, "Dahlah, kau jangan nak buat malu mak. Cik Tipah jiran

kita tu buat kenduri kat hotel siap dato, datin, tan sri puan sri lagi

datang. Mana la mak nak letak muka kalau buat kenduri kecik kecik?".

Anyway, you finally get married. But, a beautiful happy life after

marriage that you dream of with your wife does not last long. You have

debts around your waist, interest gets higher every month, cannot

afford to pay them, you wife gets tired of you asking money from her,

she accuses you of being irresponsible husband for not being a good

provider, blah blah blah? At the

end, you two go into separate ways? You get divorced.

Problem breeds problem? Sometimes we wonder why marriage institution is failing in our country.

The above example may not represent the whole phenomena in our culture,

but perhaps it gives us some ideas of the problems young couple these

days are facing in getting married from my perspective.

The Root Cause of The Problem...

There is something wrong in our culture. I really think there are some

practices in our culture in Malaysia (Malay culture specifically) that

do not make sense and especially they are contrary to the teaching of

Islam. These practices are well-rooted in our culture that

unfortunately because of them, many people are 'afraid' to get married,

or simply feel like they cannot afford when they are actually can

afford. These are some of my observation and summary analysis:

(1) Marriage should be done in the most modest way but in Malaysia, it

is ought to be done in the most lavish way. Competition on whose

wedding is the most grandeur is almost unavoidable. Fame is usually the

reason why people spend unreasonable and wasteful amount of money for a

wedding.

(2) The "price" of a woman is measured according to her perhaps

educational status not according to her knowledge and understanding of

Deen and piety as suggested by the religion. The saddest thing is that

"price" is put on women, who are supposed to be, if God-loving,

kind-hearted and pious ones, "priceless"! 'Dowry' system is adopted by

the Malays from perhaps the Indians who came to Malaysia long time ago.

When the 'dowry' is put too high and men can't afford to pay, marriage

is usually delayed or cancelled. An effort to build another small brick

unit of this Deen is delayed or perhaps destroyed only for this reason.

(3) Marriage should be a quick and easy process for the couple not hard,

which eventually becomes a burden. These days, we make marriage so

complicated that people are afraid of getting married. When I was in

the Sydney, I saw Muslim brothers and sisters getting married at the

mosque, with just some sweets as the main course for the guests. The

guests who were invited to witness the ceremony were usually whoever

prayed jemaah at the mosque or some close relatives and friends. There

is no point of being extravagance. We should focus on the life after wedding not the wedding

itself. Wedding is only a door to the marriage house. Why should we

spent a lot of money to decorate the door so beautifully, when the

inside of the house is then left empty, dark and unattractive?

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Rungutan semua

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Semua xnk balik sana balik.

Lagipun, normal kan? Susah nak let go benda yang best... :)

Fuyoo...

Lama x luahkan perasaan gua dalam blog..

Pertamanya... Gua dah buang bende ala 'feedjit' dalam blog ni, so identiti pembaca boleh dirahsiakan dari ak atau pembaca2 len. ..

Keduanya.. Gua akan balik Deutschland isnin malam ni. And honestly, xnak balik. Tapi kene pergi gak. Hai...

Ketiga.. Ak harap mulut ak, tangan ak, n kaki ak terjaga dari buat benda2 yang ak akan menyesal di kemudian hari. Contohnya study last minit, mulut terlampau vokal dll..

Keempat.. Kejayaan gua kejayaan gua sorang. Kalau gua tolong orang, n orang rasa rimas, gua berambus sbb gua xkan tolong lagi orang2 yang penuh ego. Kadang2 gua penat2 tolong orang, tapi orang anggap gua ni cam mesin. Bile nk gune, masa tu la lu on. Bile xnk guni simpan n kunci dalam stor- x servis2. Pastu bile mesin rosak, cakap mesin tu jahat. Lu piker sendiri..

Kelima... Gua dah bosan orang2 yang suka menilai gua. Buat silap sket, cakap gua macam2. X pernah nk tgk cermin.

Keenam... Gua xnak emo sangat mcam dulu2. Emo2 sangat x guna sebenarnya. Klau org nak buat tahik ngan ak, biarlah deorg. Gua diam n harap lu ol muhasabah diri. Janji gua senyap je. Kalau gua diam lama tu, faham2 sendiri ar. Dah... tu last pernyataan emo ak... lepas ni xde da..

Hari raya.. oo.. hari raya

Hari raya tahun ni hari raya yang paling meriah...

Dari bulan puasa dah start dah meriahnya... semenjak pulang ke tanah air tercinta..

Antara benda2 yang telah buat pi Singapore, blk Kampung, driving siang malam, night life, beraya sana sini, etc3...

Overall really had a good time. lepak ngan famili, jumpe membe2 lama yang telah lama x berjumpa.. luv it..

Tapi

rasa berat hati nak balik Deutchland balik. But life must go on... Balik2 ni kene sibukkan diri nk mintak practical n study btul2 untuk Hauptstudium ni. Priorities...oh priorities...

Selamat hari raya

Saya mengucapkan selamat hari dan maaf zahir dan batin untuk smua pembaca blog ini.

Diharap agar saya dapat dimaafkan jikalau telah mengeluarkan kenyataan yang mengerutkan dahi atau menyinggung pihak2 tertentu.

Dan seperti tahun sebelumnya, mural raya dilancarkan..

Teruskan mengikuti blog ni :)

Flaws in the Mcdonald fries test..

1. I was told one day, that eating at Mcdonalds is to be discouraged because the ingredients of the food is put under scrutiny.

2. These news are spread through alternative medias like youtube, facebook, and many other sources.

3. But being a person who I am, i never trust things unless it is proven to me in front of my eyes and is backed up by scientific facts.

4. A brief description of the test; They put McDonald's products in air tight containers like big macs and fries, each separated in another container. Then, as control, they put an ordinary burger in another separate container and normal home made fries in another. They leave those containers for a few weeks. (Just look at youtube and search)

5. The result: The fries never go bad, the McDonald burgers take a much longer time to decay than ordinary burgers. So, they say that the fries are artificial, the beef is artificial and this and that. Pish posh.. To keep it short, they say : Don't eat at McD. I myself am not a fan of fast food but a fan of science and facts.

6. Being a number one fan of Discovery Channel's 'Mythbusters', after seeing them researching, proofing and negating conspiracy theorists I decided to be a Mythbuster myself.

7. My conclusion: This test is to be discredited because

• in the French Fries explanation

a) When we swallow food, our saliva and teeth break them down to smaller particles.

b) The chewed food is broken down through Hydrochloric acid in our stomachs whose pH levels range from 1 to 2.

c) The test is carried out under the absence of physical breakdown and chemical break

down. In other words, the fries not decaying doesn't mean that our food is not being digested. Its just a matter of the advancements McDonalds have in their food preservation technology. If it is "poison", i think the authorities would have already banned Mcdonalds a log time ago.

• The burgers decaying later than ordinary burgers

a) A simple explanation. McDonald's beef patties are manufactured under a very controlled hygienic environment. Normal beef patty (in this experiment = hand-made), are made

from hand and in a non industrial hygienically certified environment. That's why they decay faster.

8. For me, this is another example of unhealthy competition in the fast food industry. Some other companies use alternative media to spread lies and in turn discredit their rival's capability.

9. Any feedback, please comment. Thanks :)

Justification

Polpot killed thousands of cambodians.

Hitler killed countless civilians.

Israel kills countless Palestinians.

European settlers killed thousands of Australian aborigines

Communists killed so many during the Darurat (Emergency)

Japanese killed countless civilians during WW2

Spanish colonialists killed countless of Mayans

And many other similar scenarios...

But all these killings have one thing in common. The leaders responsible for these killings never admit that they have done wrong. All will come out with arguments to justify their actions even though it is clear to human logic that what they do is inherently wrong. I wonder, what if these leaders were themselves victims to their own decisions, I wonder what will they say by then.

These leaders say that people who condemn them could never grasp the big picture of what their cause was for. Polpot strived for an agricultural ethiopia in Cambodia, Hitler strived for the sake of the German race, Israel kills for internal security and so on.. until u get sick of their arguments.

For me, they are criminals, like how people who murder children, would argue when they justify their actions in court.

In war, only soldiers should be killed on the battlefield, not innocent people. But if innocent people help them, then, they are to be treated as soldiers, for they are also contributing to the enemies' advance. That is the dirty truth of wars. It is difficult if war occurs.

Ok, if u were a warlord, and the enemy is having mortars and rocket launchers, bombing the houses of you families. But the catch is, each mortar and rocket launcher is accompanied by one child. As a warlord, what will you do?

a) kill the rocket launchers and at the same time killing the accompanying child

or

b) have sympathy for the children, and just let the enemy fire mortars killing your own family.

So being in a war is not easy. Deceits occur, people get killed, more widows roam the street, and more children become orphans.

But back to the topic, "justification", : every human being will tend to do something perceived as good to them, but perceived as bad by others. And when that occurs, they will justify their actions even though it goes far away from human logic. So in this pretext, the word RIGHT and WRONG technically doesn't exist. Nothing is RIGHT in this world and nothing is WRONG in this world if you catch my drift.

But what gives meaning to the word RIGHT and WRONG is the satisfaction you feel having the feeling that what you do, is in your perspective CORRECT.

So how does God save the human race from this dilemma. He sends to us Revelations through our Prophets so as we are not guided astray due to our human nature.